Why Self-Romance Is Not Selfish

Where the Guilt Actually Comes From

The hesitation usually shows up before the idea fully forms.

You think about turning toward yourself emotionally and something tightens. Not fear exactly. More like a quiet warning. A sense that focusing on yourself might be crossing a line you were never supposed to approach. That reaction isn’t random, and it isn’t a flaw. It’s something that’s been trained into you over time, and it sits at the heart of what self-romance actually challenges.

This is the same tension explored throughout The Self-Romance Blueprint,  because the discomfort doesn’t come from wanting too much. It comes from wanting something you were taught to earn instead of initiate.

If care showed up conditionally when you were younger, tied to behavior, usefulness, or emotional restraint, you learned to wait for it. You learned that attention followed effort. That warmth arrived when you were manageable. Over time, that created an internal rule that never needed to be spoken: care is something that comes from outside you.

So when you start offering it to yourself, your system doesn’t recognize it as normal. It recognizes it as suspicious.

That’s where the guilt enters.

Why “Selfish” Is the Wrong Word

Selfishness has a very specific shape in real life.

It looks like disregarding impact. Taking emotional space without awareness. Expecting other people to absorb feelings they didn’t agree to carry. Selfishness pulls from others to stabilize the self.

Self-romance does the opposite. It stabilizes the self so nothing needs to be pulled.

You can feel the difference in everyday moments. You don’t need reassurance as urgently. Silence doesn’t feel like rejection. You don’t replay conversations looking for proof that you matter. The emotional volume lowers, not because you care less, but because you’re not waiting to be regulated from the outside.

This shift is unpacked more deeply in what happens when you make yourself the prioritywhere emotional steadiness stops being something you hope for and starts being something you build.

When that steadiness exists internally, relationships change shape. They stop carrying weight they were never meant to hold.

Why Choosing Yourself Can Feel Morally Wrong

For many people, the discomfort around self-romance isn’t about ego. It’s about loyalty.

If you were praised for being emotionally low-maintenance, adaptable, or strong, then choosing yourself can feel like betrayal. You’re stepping out of a role that once kept you safe. You’re no longer prioritizing ease for everyone else, and that can feel wrong before it feels right.

In real life, this shows up in small negotiations you have with yourself. You’re tired but push through anyway. You’re disappointed but minimize it. You want rest but feel like you haven’t earned it yet. None of this feels dramatic enough to justify care, so you withhold it.

That pattern doesn’t mean you lack self-love. It means you learned to disappear quietly.

Self-romance interrupts that disappearance.

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What Changes When You Stop Abandoning Yourself

When you start meeting yourself emotionally, behavior shifts before identity does.

You pause instead of overriding your feelings. You notice when something feels off instead of pushing past it. You allow enjoyment without immediately explaining why it makes sense. These aren’t grand acts. They’re small acts of loyalty to yourself, repeated consistently.

This is where having a place to process without performance matters. There are moments when self-respect feels fragile, when you need to hear your own voice clearly again. For many people, that’s when the Crowned Journal   becomes a steady anchor, not to hype yourself up, but to reconnect with your internal authority.

Other moments are less about boundaries and more about direction. You’re choosing yourself, but you’re still figuring out what that actually looks like day to day. That’s when the My Best Life Journal   tends to make sense, because it’s built around intentional choices rather than emotional processing alone.

These journals simply give your attention somewhere to land so it doesn’t keep drifting outward.

Why This Makes Relationships Easier, Not Harder

One of the biggest fears around self-romance is that it will make you distant.

What usually happens is the opposite.

When your emotional needs are acknowledged internally, you stop expecting other people to sense them for you. Communication becomes clearer. Reactions soften. You’re less likely to take things personally because your sense of worth isn’t waiting on reinforcement.

This is why people often find themselves saying things like self-focus in relationships feels wrong before realizing how much emotional labor they’ve been carrying. That realization is explored further in is it normal to miss romance during healing,  where longing isn’t framed as weakness, but as a signal that intimacy hasn’t had a place to rest.

Self-romance gives it that place.

How Over-Responsibility Gets Mistaken for Maturity

One of the reasons self-romance feels so uncomfortable at first is because it challenges a role you may have spent years perfecting.

Being the reliable one.
Being the steady one.
Being the person who doesn’t need much.

That role often gets rewarded early. People trust you. They lean on you. They describe you as grounded or strong. Over time, you start associating emotional self-containment with adulthood itself. Needing less becomes proof that you’re doing life well.

The problem is that over-responsibility doesn’t disappear just because it’s praised. It settles into your body. You carry other people’s moods without noticing. You anticipate disappointment before it happens. You soften your reactions so situations stay manageable.

None of that feels dramatic enough to question. It just feels like being considerate.

Self-romance interrupts this pattern because it asks a different question: what happens when you stop managing yourself for everyone else?

That question can feel destabilizing at first. Not because it creates chaos, but because it removes a familiar structure. You’re no longer organizing your inner life around how it affects others. You’re organizing it around what’s actually happening inside you.

That shift is subtle, but it changes everything.

Why Receiving Feels Harder Than Giving

Many people who struggle with self-romance are generous by nature.

They give attention easily. They show up. They listen. They remember details. Giving feels natural because it reinforces a role they know how to occupy. Receiving, on the other hand, feels awkward. Unnecessary. Sometimes even uncomfortable.

This imbalance doesn’t mean you don’t want care. It means you’re more practiced at offering it than accepting it.

Self-romance is a form of receiving that doesn’t require another person to initiate it. That’s what makes it unfamiliar. There’s no external cue, no permission granted, no moment where it’s clearly your turn. You have to choose it without being invited.

In real life, this shows up when you struggle to sit with your own emotions without redirecting them outward. You might feel lonely and immediately think about who to text. You might feel overwhelmed and jump into productivity instead of pausing. You might crave closeness but distract yourself until the feeling dulls.

Self-romance asks you to stay instead.

Not to fix the feeling.
Not to dramatize it.
Just to remain present with it long enough for it to shift on its own.

That staying is often where resistance peaks. The urge to do something else. To be useful. To move on. Those urges are learned responses, not instincts.

What Staying With Yourself Actually Looks Like

Staying with yourself doesn’t mean sitting in silence waiting for insight to arrive.

It looks more ordinary than that.

It looks like noticing that you’re irritated and asking why before snapping. It looks like realizing you’re tired and adjusting your day instead of pushing through. It looks like letting yourself enjoy something without turning it into a reward.

These moments are quiet, but they’re cumulative. Each time you respond to yourself instead of overriding the response, you rebuild internal trust. Over time, that trust becomes the foundation for steadiness.

This is often when people notice a shift in how they make decisions. Choices feel less reactive. You’re not trying to escape discomfort or chase relief. You’re responding to yourself with more clarity.

For many people, this clarity shows up most clearly when it’s written down. Not to analyze every feeling, but to see patterns without judgment. The Crowned Journal supports this stage well because it’s structured around self-respect and internal authority. It helps you recognize where you’ve been negotiating against yourself without realizing it.

As that awareness grows, a different question often follows: if I’m choosing myself, what am I actually choosing toward?

That’s where intentionality enters the picture.

The My Best Life Journal   becomes useful here because it shifts the focus from self-protection to self-direction. It’s less about correcting patterns and more about aligning daily choices with the life you’re actively building.

Both serve different moments in the same process. One stabilizes. The other clarifies.

Why This Reduces Resentment Over Time

Resentment doesn’t usually come from asking for too much.

It comes from asking for nothing and hoping someone notices anyway.

When you consistently ignore your own needs, they don’t disappear. They turn into tension. That tension leaks out as impatience, withdrawal, or a vague sense of dissatisfaction that doesn’t have a clear target.

Self-romance addresses resentment at the source by removing the expectation that someone else should fill a gap you haven’t acknowledged yourself.

This is why relationships often feel lighter once self-romance becomes consistent. You’re not waiting to be rescued emotionally. You’re not keeping score internally. You’re present because you want to be, not because you need something to settle inside you.

This is also where many people realize that wanting connection doesn’t mean they’re dependent. It means they’re relational. That distinction matters, especially during periods of growth or recalibration. The tension between independence and longing is explored further in is it normal to miss romance during healing,  where desire is treated as information, not a problem to solve.

Self-romance gives that information somewhere to land without urgency.

How This Changes the Way You Experience Romance

When you’re not connected to yourself, romance tends to feel intense.

You want it quickly. You want it to reassure you. You want it to mean something definitive. That intensity isn’t wrong, but it often masks unmet internal needs.

When you’re connected to yourself, romance slows down.

You’re still interested. You still desire closeness. But you’re not using it to regulate your emotional state. You’re meeting it from a place that already has grounding.

This is when romance stops feeling like something you chase and starts feeling like something you recognize.

You’re more discerning. Less reactive. You notice how someone makes you feel over time instead of getting swept up in immediacy. That discernment doesn’t come from being guarded. It comes from being anchored.

This is the deeper shift hinted at throughout The Self-Romance Blueprint,  where romance with others becomes an extension of the relationship you already have with yourself, not a replacement for it.

Self-romance doesn’t close you off.

It gives you somewhere solid to stand.

Why Slowing Down Feels Risky at First

One of the quieter side effects of self-romance is that it changes your relationship with pace.

When you’ve spent a long time managing yourself emotionally, speed can feel protective. Staying busy keeps feelings from catching up. Moving quickly keeps questions from settling. Slowing down can feel risky, like something uncomfortable might surface if you stop long enough to notice.

That fear doesn’t mean you’re avoiding growth. It means you’ve learned to regulate yourself through motion.

Self-romance invites a different form of regulation. Instead of outrunning discomfort, you meet it with attention. You notice when your chest tightens in certain conversations. You notice when your energy drops around certain commitments. You notice when excitement fades into obligation. These observations don’t demand immediate action. They simply ask to be acknowledged.

This is often where people first realize how disconnected they’ve been from their own signals. Not intentionally, but habitually.

Slowing down brings those signals back into focus.

What Happens When You Stop Proving You’re Okay

Many people don’t realize how much effort they put into appearing fine.

You reassure others before they worry. You soften your tone so emotions don’t feel heavy. You explain yourself quickly so no one feels burdened. Over time, this becomes second nature. You stop noticing the performance because it feels like personality.

Self-romance disrupts that performance.

You start letting pauses exist without filling them. You stop rushing to reassure when you’re unsure. You allow yourself to say less instead of managing perception. That can feel exposed at first, especially if you’re used to being the emotionally stable one.

In real life, this might look like declining an invitation without over-explaining. Sitting with uncertainty instead of turning it into productivity. Letting someone notice your quiet without fixing it.

These moments aren’t dramatic, but they’re telling. They show you where you’ve been proving something that no longer needs proof.

This is one of the subtler signs discussed in signs you’re loving yourself in real time, where self-respect shows up not as confidence, but as reduced self-editing. You’re not trying to be impressive. You’re being honest.

How Self-Romance Rebuilds Internal Trust

Trust with yourself doesn’t come from affirmations or intentions. It comes from consistency.

Each time you notice a need and respond to it, even in a small way, you reinforce a basic internal agreement: I will not abandon myself when it’s inconvenient. Over time, that agreement becomes a felt sense rather than a thought.

You stop questioning your own reactions so much. You believe yourself when something feels off. You’re less likely to override intuition because you’ve seen what happens when you listen.

This trust changes decision-making in subtle but important ways. You’re less reactive because you’re not constantly compensating for unmet needs. Choices feel cleaner. You don’t spiral as easily because you’re not arguing with yourself internally.

For many people, writing is where this trust becomes visible. Not in polished insights, but in patterns that repeat across pages. The Crowned Journal   often supports this stage because it helps you name where you’ve been compromising your own authority without realizing it. You start seeing how often you’ve deferred your own knowing.

As trust strengthens, focus naturally shifts from correction to intention.

That’s when the My Best Life Journal   becomes relevant again, not as a productivity tool, but as a way of choosing direction from a grounded place. You’re not trying to reinvent yourself. You’re aligning with what already feels true.

Why Desire Becomes Clearer, Not Louder

Another common fear around self-romance is that it will intensify desire in ways that feel unmanageable.

What usually happens is the opposite.

When desire has no internal acknowledgment, it tends to escalate. It feels urgent. It looks for resolution outside of you. That’s when attraction can feel overwhelming, when longing feels destabilizing, when you mistake intensity for compatibility.

When desire is met internally, it slows down.

You still want connection. You still feel drawn. But the wanting doesn’t hijack you. You can observe it without acting on it immediately. You can enjoy the feeling without needing it to mean something definitive.

This is where many people notice a shift in how they approach romance. They’re not chasing reassurance. They’re not confusing chemistry with safety. They’re not rushing toward closeness to quiet an internal ache.

This is the deeper layer touched on in reasons why romance begins with you,  where attraction becomes something you respond to thoughtfully rather than something that carries your emotional weight.

Self-romance gives desire context.

How This Changes the Way You Handle Loneliness

Loneliness doesn’t disappear when you practice self-romance, but it changes quality.

Instead of feeling sharp or urgent, it becomes more spacious. You can sit with it without panicking. You don’t immediately reach for distraction or validation. You acknowledge the feeling without turning it into a verdict about your life.

In real life, this might look like noticing loneliness at the end of the day and choosing presence instead of scrolling. Writing instead of numbing. Going to bed without needing to resolve the feeling completely.

This doesn’t mean you stop wanting connection. It means loneliness stops controlling you.

That distinction matters, especially during periods when you’re recalibrating relationships or stepping into a new phase of your life. Wanting closeness doesn’t mean you’re behind. It means you’re human and relational.

Self-romance gives that wanting somewhere to rest so it doesn’t turn into desperation or withdrawal.

What This Ultimately Restores

At its core, self-romance restores continuity.

You stop living in fragments. One version of you for other people, another version for yourself. You don’t have to switch personas to be acceptable. You’re not constantly managing the gap between how you feel and how you present.

That integration is what makes everything else easier. Work feels less draining. Relationships feel less loaded. Rest feels more restorative.

Self-romance doesn’t make you self-absorbed.

It makes you whole.

Why Consistency Matters More Than Intensity

One of the quiet misunderstandings around self-romance is the belief that it has to feel profound every time.

People expect a shift. A realization. Some emotional breakthrough that confirms they’re doing it right. When that doesn’t happen, they assume nothing is changing. But self-romance works through repetition, not intensity.

What matters is not how deeply you feel something once, but how reliably you respond to yourself over time.

In real life, this looks unremarkable. You notice when you’re overwhelmed and you adjust your day slightly instead of pushing harder. You recognize when something doesn’t sit right and you name it privately, even if you don’t act on it yet. You choose rest before exhaustion forces it.

These moments don’t announce themselves as progress, but they accumulate. They teach your nervous system that attention is available without crisis. That care doesn’t require collapse.

This is why self-romance stabilizes rather than excites. It creates predictability inside you. And predictability is what allows ease to exist.

How Self-Romance Changes Your Inner Dialogue

When you stop abandoning yourself, the way you talk to yourself shifts naturally.

Not because you decide to be kinder, but because there’s less internal conflict to manage. You’re not arguing against your own reactions. You’re listening to them. That listening reduces the need for self-criticism.

You notice when you’re disappointed and you don’t rush to override it. You notice when you’re proud and you don’t downplay it. You allow feelings to move through without assigning meaning too quickly.

Over time, your inner dialogue becomes more descriptive than judgmental. You name what’s happening instead of labeling it as wrong.

This is one of the places where journaling becomes less about insight and more about witnessing. The Crowned Journal   supports this shift by helping you articulate what you’re experiencing without turning it into a performance or a problem to solve. You’re not trying to fix yourself. You’re staying present.

As that presence grows, decision-making becomes less reactive. You’re not trying to escape discomfort or chase relief. You’re responding from a place that feels more grounded.

Why You Stop Over-Explaining Yourself

Another subtle change self-romance introduces is a reduction in explanation.

When you trust yourself internally, you don’t need as much external validation. You don’t feel compelled to justify every choice. You say no without a long backstory. You rest without defending it. You change your mind without apologizing excessively.

This doesn’t make you colder. It makes you clearer.

In relationships, this clarity shows up as steadiness. You communicate without over-functioning. You express needs without bracing for rejection. You don’t manage other people’s reactions as carefully because you’re not afraid of your own.

This is often when people realize how much energy they used to spend proving they were reasonable. Self-romance removes the need for that proof.

How This Affects Long-Term Satisfaction

Self-romance doesn’t promise constant happiness. What it offers is continuity.

You stop swinging between extremes of over-giving and withdrawal. You stop chasing moments of validation followed by long stretches of depletion. Instead, your emotional life becomes more even.

That evenness is what allows satisfaction to develop. Not the kind that comes from achievement or approval, but the kind that comes from alignment. You feel more at home in yourself. Less split. Less performative.

This satisfaction doesn’t depend on circumstances being perfect. It depends on you being present with yourself across changing conditions.

This is why self-romance tends to ripple outward quietly. Work becomes more sustainable. Relationships feel less charged. Solitude feels less lonely. You’re not constantly negotiating your worth in every environment.

Why This Is the Opposite of Selfishness

Selfishness takes without awareness.

Self-romance cultivates awareness so taking isn’t necessary.

When you’re emotionally attended to from the inside, you’re less likely to demand that attention from others unconsciously. You don’t rely on intensity to feel connected. You don’t need constant reassurance to feel secure.

You’re able to show up with more generosity because your reserves aren’t empty.

This is why people who practice self-romance are often described as grounded. Not because they’re detached, but because they’re resourced.

They’ve learned how to stay with themselves.

What This Makes Possible

Once self-romance becomes consistent, something subtle but important happens. You stop organizing your life around what you can tolerate and start organizing it around what you actually want.

You notice what drains you and adjust without drama. You notice what nourishes you and make room for it. You stop forcing yourself into roles that require self-erasure.

This doesn’t mean your life becomes easier overnight. It means it becomes more honest.

That honesty is what creates momentum. You’re not pushing yourself forward out of fear or obligation. You’re moving because the direction feels aligned.

This is the deeper promise running through The Self-Romance Blueprint, where choosing yourself isn’t framed as rebellion, but as responsibility to your own life.

Self-romance isn’t selfish.

It’s maintenance for the relationship you’ll never step out of.

Why This Work Feels Quiet Instead of Dramatic

One of the reasons self-romance is easy to underestimate is because it doesn’t announce itself with visible change.

There is no obvious before-and-after. No moment where everything clicks and stays that way. What shifts instead is your baseline. The way you move through your day. The way you respond internally when something feels off. The way you recover when disappointment shows up.

That quietness can feel anticlimactic if you’re used to growth being loud. If you’re used to change arriving through disruption, self-romance might feel too subtle to count. But subtlety is exactly what allows it to last.

In real life, this looks like fewer internal negotiations. You don’t spend as much time convincing yourself to be okay. You don’t argue with your own reactions as often. When something feels wrong, you take it seriously without turning it into a crisis.

That steadiness is easy to miss because it doesn’t create urgency. It creates space.

How Self-Romance Rewires Responsibility

Another shift that often goes unnoticed is how responsibility starts to reorganize internally.

Before self-romance, responsibility tends to point outward. You feel responsible for maintaining harmony. For keeping things smooth. For absorbing emotional friction so situations don’t escalate. You carry more than you realize because it feels easier than risking disruption.

As self-romance becomes consistent, responsibility turns inward first. Not in a self-absorbed way, but in a grounding way. You become responsible for noticing yourself before managing the environment. You tend to your internal state before adjusting your behavior for others.

This doesn’t make you less considerate. It makes your consideration cleaner.

You’re no longer guessing what you need after the fact. You’re responding earlier, when adjustment is still gentle. That early response prevents resentment from forming and prevents burnout from accumulating.

Over time, this changes how you interpret your own capacity. You stop overestimating what you can carry just because you’ve always carried it. You stop confusing endurance with alignment.

Why Emotional Clarity Comes Later Than Emotional Permission

A common frustration people experience when practicing self-romance is the desire for clarity too soon.

You give yourself permission to feel something and immediately want to know what it means. Should you act on it. Communicate it. Change something. Make a decision. That urgency is understandable, especially if you’re used to resolving discomfort quickly.

Self-romance slows that impulse.

It teaches you that emotional permission does not require immediate interpretation. You can acknowledge a feeling without turning it into a plan. You can sit with uncertainty without rushing to define it.

This is often when journaling becomes less about insight and more about pacing. You’re not writing to arrive at answers. You’re writing to stay present long enough for answers to emerge on their own.

For many people, the Crowned Journal  supports this stage because it emphasizes self-respect over resolution. It gives structure to reflection without demanding conclusions. You’re allowed to say, this is where I am, and stop there.

As that permission becomes familiar, clarity follows more naturally. Not because you forced it, but because you created the conditions for it to surface.

How This Changes the Way You Measure Progress

When self-romance is present, progress stops being measured by outcomes.

You don’t judge your growth by how productive you are, how calm you appear, or how well things are going externally. You measure it by how often you stay with yourself instead of leaving.

Did you notice when something didn’t feel right.
Did you respond instead of override.
Did you adjust instead of endure.

These markers are internal, which makes them harder to compare and easier to trust.

This is why self-romance often leads to a quieter kind of confidence. You don’t need as much reinforcement because your sense of direction isn’t dependent on constant feedback. You trust yourself more because you’ve seen yourself respond consistently.

That trust becomes the foundation for long-term change.

Why Choosing Yourself Stops Feeling Like a Statement

At first, choosing yourself can feel like a declaration.

You notice it. You think about it. You second-guess it. You wonder if you’re doing too much or not enough. Over time, that intensity fades. Choosing yourself becomes less symbolic and more habitual.

You don’t frame it as a stance. You simply respond.

You rest when you’re tired. You speak when something matters. You pull back when something drains you. These actions stop feeling like self-care and start feeling like normal responsiveness.

This is often when people realize that self-romance was never about indulgence. It was about consistency. About staying in relationship with yourself across ordinary moments, not just emotional highs and lows.

That consistency is what makes everything else feel less charged.

What Remains When the Guilt Fades

As the guilt around choosing yourself softens, something else takes its place.

Not confidence in the performative sense. Not certainty about everything. But a steadiness that makes decisions feel less loaded. You don’t agonize as much. You don’t replay interactions endlessly. You don’t feel pulled in as many directions internally.

You feel more settled, even when life isn’t.

That settling is the clearest evidence that self-romance isn’t selfish. It doesn’t inflate you. It grounds you. It doesn’t separate you from others. It allows you to meet them without losing yourself.

This is the quiet outcome at the center of The Self-Romance Blueprint, where choosing yourself isn’t framed as defiance, but as a necessary form of stewardship over your own life.

Why You Start Trusting Your Reactions Again

One of the most understated shifts that happens with consistent self-romance is the return of trust in your own reactions.

Before this, you may have second-guessed yourself constantly. You felt something, then immediately questioned whether it was valid. You checked your reaction against other people’s comfort. You waited to see if your feelings would fade before acknowledging them. Over time, that hesitation created distance between you and your own instincts.

Self-romance closes that distance.

You begin to notice a reaction and stay with it long enough to understand it. You don’t rush to explain it away or fix it. You don’t demand certainty from yourself too early. You allow your internal responses to exist as information rather than problems.

In real life, this looks like recognizing when something doesn’t feel right at work and not forcing yourself to push through without question. It looks like noticing discomfort in a conversation and letting that awareness inform how much you engage. It looks like acknowledging when something excites you without immediately dismissing it as unrealistic.

These moments rebuild trust quietly. You stop needing proof that your reactions are justified. You start believing yourself again.

How Self-Romance Changes the Way You Handle Disappointment

Disappointment doesn’t disappear with self-romance, but it becomes easier to metabolize.

When you’re disconnected from yourself, disappointment tends to linger. You replay it. You personalize it. You either harden against it or try to resolve it externally. When you’re connected to yourself, disappointment moves through more cleanly.

You acknowledge it without dramatizing it. You let yourself feel let down without turning it into a story about your worth. You don’t rush to make sense of it before you’ve actually felt it.

This is where many people realize how much energy they used to spend suppressing disappointment so they could appear resilient. Self-romance gives you permission to be honest about what hurts without making it heavier than it already is.

Over time, this honesty prevents accumulation. Disappointments don’t stack on top of each other. They get processed instead of stored.

Why Emotional Independence Doesn’t Mean Emotional Isolation

There’s a common fear that turning inward emotionally will make you closed off or self-sufficient to a fault.

In practice, emotional independence created through self-romance does the opposite. It makes connection safer because it’s no longer loaded with unspoken expectations.

When you’re not relying on others to regulate your emotional state, you can engage more freely. You’re not monitoring every interaction for reassurance. You’re not scanning for signs that you matter. You’re present because you want to be, not because you need something to settle inside you.

This is why relationships often deepen when self-romance becomes consistent. You’re less reactive. Less defensive. Less likely to interpret neutral moments as rejection. You have room to listen without bracing.

This is also why people sometimes notice that their standards shift. Not because they’re demanding more, but because they’re clearer about what feels sustainable. You stop tolerating dynamics that require self-erasure because you’re no longer practiced at erasing yourself.

How Self-Romance Reshapes Desire Over Time

As self-romance becomes familiar, desire changes texture.

It stops feeling like something that arrives suddenly and takes over. It becomes something you notice, appreciate, and respond to thoughtfully. You’re less likely to confuse longing with urgency. You’re less likely to interpret chemistry as compatibility without reflection.

This doesn’t dull desire. It refines it.

You still want closeness. You still feel drawn. But you’re not trying to extract reassurance from attraction. You’re meeting it from a place that already has grounding.

This is often when people find themselves less interested in intensity for its own sake. They’re drawn to steadiness, reciprocity, and presence. Romance becomes something you experience rather than something you chase.

Why This Creates a Different Relationship With Time

Another subtle outcome of self-romance is a shift in how you experience time.

When you’re disconnected from yourself, time often feels scarce. You rush. You overfill your schedule. You push yourself because slowing down feels unsafe. When you’re connected to yourself, time feels more spacious.

You don’t feel the same pressure to keep up or prove momentum. You move at a pace that matches your internal state rather than external expectations. That pacing reduces anxiety without requiring effort.

In real life, this might look like taking breaks without guilt. Letting days unfold without forcing productivity. Trusting that rest doesn’t put you behind.

This change in pacing supports everything else. Decisions feel less rushed. Emotions feel less urgent. You’re not constantly bracing for the next thing.

What Becomes Possible When You Stop Arguing With Yourself

At some point, the internal arguments quiet.

You stop negotiating whether you’re allowed to feel what you feel. You stop questioning every need. You stop debating whether you’re asking for too much when you haven’t asked for anything at all.

That quiet creates room.

Room for clarity.
Room for creativity.
Room for deeper connection.

Self-romance doesn’t give you answers. It gives you access to yourself without obstruction. That access is what makes everything else more honest.

You’re no longer split between who you are and who you think you should be. You respond instead of perform. You choose instead of endure.

That integration is the clearest evidence that self-romance was never about indulgence or ego.

It was about staying in relationship with yourself long enough for your life to feel like it belongs to you.

Why Self-Romance Changes How You Handle Uncertainty

Uncertainty is one of the places people abandon themselves most quickly.

When you do not know what to do next, the instinct is often to push for resolution. Make a decision. Say something. Do something productive so the discomfort does not linger. That impulse is understandable, especially if you learned that clarity equals safety.

Self-romance changes how you meet uncertainty.

Instead of treating not knowing as a problem, you learn how to stay present inside it. You stop pressuring yourself to decide before you understand. You let questions exist without demanding immediate answers. That patience creates a different kind of stability, one that does not rely on control.

In everyday life, this might look like acknowledging that you are unsure about a relationship without forcing a conclusion. It might look like sitting with dissatisfaction at work instead of impulsively fixing it or dismissing it. You allow yourself to gather information internally before acting.

That ability to wait is not passive. It is attentive. It requires trust in yourself to handle what emerges.

How Self-Romance Softens Internal Pressure

Many people carry a constant sense of internal urgency.

You feel like you should be further along. More settled. More certain. More accomplished. That pressure does not always come from external expectations. Often, it comes from an internalized timeline you never consciously chose.

Self-romance loosens that pressure by changing how you relate to yourself in the present moment. You stop treating your current state as something that needs justification. You allow yourself to be where you are without turning it into a verdict.

This shows up quietly. You stop rushing your own growth. You stop comparing your internal process to someone else’s visible milestones. You recognize that emotional development does not follow a linear schedule.

As that pressure softens, your nervous system relaxes. You feel less behind. Less frantic. More able to move forward without force.

Why You Stop Romanticizing Struggle

Another subtle shift that happens with consistent self-romance is a change in how you relate to struggle itself.

If you have spent a long time equating hardship with growth, ease can feel suspicious. You might unconsciously believe that if something feels calm, it must be shallow or undeserved. That belief keeps you in cycles of overextension without realizing it.

Self-romance challenges that narrative.

You begin to notice that growth does not always require strain. That insight can arrive through rest, reflection, or enjoyment just as often as through difficulty. You stop measuring the value of an experience by how much it costs you emotionally.

In real life, this might look like allowing a period of stability without waiting for the other shoe to drop. Letting yourself enjoy a routine without feeling like you should be doing more. Accepting moments of contentment without immediately questioning their legitimacy.

This does not make you complacent. It makes you responsive instead of reactive.

How Self-Romance Alters Your Relationship With Effort

Effort starts to feel different when you are no longer using it to prove worth.

You still work. You still show up. You still care. But you are not driven by the need to justify your existence or your choices. Effort becomes purposeful rather than compensatory.

This change often shows up in how you allocate energy. You invest more in what nourishes you and less in what drains you. You stop pushing yourself to perform in environments that require self-erasure. You notice when effort feels aligned and when it feels forced.

Over time, this discernment saves energy. You are no longer exhausting yourself trying to earn permission to rest or enjoy your life.

Why Self-Romance Makes Boundaries Feel Natural

Boundaries are often framed as something you impose.

With self-romance, boundaries emerge organically. They are not rules you enforce. They are responses to internal signals you trust. You notice when something crosses a line because you are present enough to feel it.

In practice, this means you do not need dramatic explanations. You adjust quietly. You say no without rehearsing. You leave situations that drain you without over-rationalizing.

This ease around boundaries is one of the clearest signs that your relationship with yourself has shifted. You are no longer negotiating your needs internally before honoring them.

What Remains After the Concept Fades

Eventually, self-romance stops feeling like a concept altogether.

It becomes the way you relate to yourself by default. You notice your state. You respond with care. You stay present without turning everything into a project. The language falls away, but the behavior remains.

You are not thinking about choosing yourself. You simply do.

This is why the question of selfishness dissolves over time. Not because you argued yourself out of it, but because your lived experience no longer supports it. You see how much steadier you are. How much more available you are. How much less pressure your relationships carry.

Self-romance does not isolate you.

It roots you.

And from that place, connection becomes something you participate in willingly, not something you depend on to feel whole.

Why You Stop Feeling Late to Your Own Life

A subtle but meaningful change that comes with self-romance is the way time stops feeling like it is running ahead of you.

Before, there may have been a constant sense of lag. Like everyone else was arriving somewhere you were still trying to reach. That feeling often has less to do with actual circumstance and more to do with internal disconnection. When you are not in steady contact with yourself, life can feel like something you are catching up to instead of inhabiting.

Self-romance restores a sense of presence.

You are no longer waiting for some internal version of yourself to show up later. You recognize that you are already here, already responding, already living. That realization softens urgency. You make decisions based on what feels right now, not what you think you should have figured out by this point.

In everyday life, this might look like releasing pressure around timelines that were never yours to begin with. You stop measuring yourself against imagined milestones. You allow your life to unfold at a pace that matches your actual experience.

That shift alone reduces a surprising amount of internal stress.

How Self-Romance Changes the Way You Relate to Achievement

Achievement takes on a different meaning once self-romance is present.

You still care about what you do. You still want to grow. But achievement is no longer used to compensate for emotional neglect. You are not trying to prove worth through output. You are expressing capability from a place of steadiness.

This changes how success feels when it arrives. It lands more cleanly. There is less anxiety attached to maintaining it. Less fear that it could disappear and take your sense of self with it.

Failure changes too. It still stings, but it does not destabilize you in the same way. You are able to separate an outcome from your identity because you are not using outcomes to define your value.

This is one of the quieter benefits of self-romance. It creates emotional insulation without detachment.

Why You Become Less Reactive to Other People’s Moods

Another noticeable shift is how little other people’s emotions begin to pull you off center.

When you are disconnected from yourself, other people’s moods can feel overwhelming. You absorb tension quickly. You feel responsible for fixing discomfort. You adjust yourself instinctively to keep things smooth.

As self-romance becomes consistent, that reflex softens.

You notice when someone else is upset without immediately internalizing it. You offer presence without over-functioning. You remain compassionate without sacrificing your own steadiness.

This does not make you less empathetic. It makes your empathy sustainable.

In real interactions, this might look like staying calm when someone is frustrated instead of rushing to appease them. It might look like listening without taking responsibility for feelings that are not yours to carry. These responses protect connection rather than strain it.

How Self-Romance Redefines Emotional Strength

Emotional strength is often misunderstood as endurance.

Holding it together. Not reacting. Staying composed no matter what. Those qualities can be useful, but they are not the full picture. Without self-romance, endurance can become a form of self-neglect.

Self-romance reframes strength as responsiveness.

You feel what you feel and respond appropriately. You rest when you need to. You speak when something matters. You allow vulnerability without dramatizing it.

This kind of strength is quieter, but it is more resilient. It does not rely on suppression. It relies on awareness.

Over time, this awareness becomes your default. You are not monitoring yourself constantly. You are simply present.

Why You Stop Confusing Peace With Boredom

For people accustomed to emotional intensity, calm can feel unfamiliar.

When your nervous system has been operating in high gear, peace might initially register as emptiness or boredom. There is less adrenaline. Less emotional charge. Less urgency. That absence can feel strange before it feels safe.

Self-romance helps you stay with that calm long enough to recognize it for what it is.

You begin to appreciate the steadiness. You notice how much energy you have when you are not constantly managing internal tension. You find pleasure in routines that once felt dull.

This is often when people realize how much excitement they were using to mask unrest. With self-romance, excitement becomes a choice rather than a requirement.

What Life Feels Like When You Are Oriented Toward Yourself

When self-romance is integrated, life feels less like a performance.

You are not constantly adjusting yourself to fit expectations. You are not scanning for feedback to decide how you are doing. You are living from a place of internal reference.

This does not make you rigid. It makes you flexible. You can adapt without losing yourself. You can engage deeply without disappearing.

The question of selfishness no longer applies because your choices are not about withdrawal or self-absorption. They are about alignment.

You choose yourself not as a statement, but as a practice.

And from that practice, everything else begins to feel more grounded, more honest, and more yours.

Why You Stop Waiting for Permission

One of the final shifts self-romance brings is subtle, but unmistakable. You stop waiting for permission to live the way you already know you want to live.

Before, there may have been an internal pause before every choice. A quick scan for approval, even if no one was watching. You waited for signs that it was acceptable to rest, to change direction, to want something different. That pause was so familiar it felt like responsibility.

Self-romance dissolves that pause.

Not because you become impulsive, but because you no longer need external validation to trust your internal signals. You notice when something feels right and you move toward it without negotiating against yourself. You notice when something feels wrong and you step back without guilt.

In everyday life, this might look like ending conversations sooner when your energy drops. It might look like changing plans without rehearsing explanations. It might look like letting yourself want something quietly without rushing to justify it.

These moments are small, but they mark a significant internal reorientation.

How This Changes the Way You Experience Choice

Choice feels different when it’s not driven by pressure.

Instead of choosing between what you want and what feels acceptable, you choose based on alignment. The decision-making process becomes simpler, not because the choices are easier, but because the internal conflict has softened.

You are not arguing with yourself as much. You are not weighing every decision against imagined consequences. You are responding to what feels true in the moment with more trust.

This doesn’t eliminate doubt entirely, but it changes your relationship to it. Doubt becomes information rather than obstruction. You listen to it without letting it override you.

That listening is a direct result of staying connected to yourself consistently.

Why Your Needs Stop Feeling Inconvenient

Another quiet outcome of self-romance is the way your needs stop feeling like interruptions.

When you’re disconnected from yourself, needs feel inconvenient. They show up at the wrong time. They complicate things. They feel like something you have to manage discreetly so they don’t burden anyone else.

With self-romance, needs feel more like signals. You notice them early. You respond before they escalate. You integrate them into your day rather than pushing them aside.

This might look like eating when you’re hungry instead of delaying it. Taking breaks before exhaustion sets in. Acknowledging emotional fatigue and adjusting your schedule accordingly.

These responses don’t feel indulgent. They feel practical.

How Self-Romance Changes Your Relationship With Desire

Desire becomes easier to hold when it’s not tied to urgency.

Instead of feeling pulled toward something to fill a gap, you allow desire to exist without immediate action. You appreciate it. You explore it internally. You let it inform you rather than drive you.

This creates a sense of spaciousness around wanting. You don’t feel rushed. You don’t feel deprived. You don’t feel like something is missing unless it truly is.

That spaciousness changes how you engage with people, opportunities, and experiences. You’re less likely to chase. More likely to choose.

Why This Work Feels Complete Without Being Final

Self-romance doesn’t arrive at a finish line.

There’s no moment where you’re done and never have to think about it again. What changes is how natural it becomes. You don’t frame it as work. You simply relate to yourself differently.

You notice yourself. You respond. You adjust. You stay present.

That continuity is what makes the practice sustainable. It doesn’t depend on motivation or inspiration. It depends on attention.

Over time, this attention becomes the background of your life rather than the focus. You don’t think about choosing yourself. You just do.

What You’re Left With

When the language falls away and the concept fades, what remains is simple.

You feel steadier.
You trust yourself more.
You engage with others without losing yourself.

The idea that this could be selfish no longer holds up, not because you argued against it, but because your lived experience contradicts it.

Self-romance did not isolate you.
It oriented you.

And from that orientation, your life begins to feel like something you are participating in, not managing from the outside.

Why Self-Romance Eventually Feels Ordinary

At some point, self-romance stops feeling like a practice and starts feeling like normal responsiveness.

You are no longer checking yourself for progress. You are no longer wondering whether you are doing it correctly. You simply notice what is happening inside you and respond in ways that feel reasonable. The work fades into the background because it has been integrated.

This is often when people realize how much energy they used to spend monitoring themselves. Am I being too much. Am I asking for too little. Am I allowed to feel this way. Those questions lose urgency when you are consistently meeting yourself where you are.

Self-romance replaces constant self-surveillance with familiarity.

You know how you tend to react when you are tired. You recognize the signs of overstimulation before irritation sets in. You understand your own rhythms well enough to adjust without drama. That familiarity creates ease.

How This Changes Your Relationship With Effort and Rest

Effort and rest stop feeling like opposites.

Before, rest may have felt like something you justified after effort. A reward. A concession. Something you squeezed in once you had proven your value for the day. Self-romance dissolves that transaction.

You rest because your body asks for it.
You work because something matters to you.

Neither requires moral framing.

In real life, this shows up as fewer internal negotiations. You stop arguing with yourself about whether you deserve a break. You stop pushing through fatigue to prove resilience. You respond to your capacity instead of overriding it.

This does not make you less capable. It makes your energy more sustainable.

Why Emotional Availability Becomes Easier

One of the quieter outcomes of self-romance is how available you become to others without trying.

When you are not constantly managing your own unmet needs, you have more room to listen. You are less preoccupied with how interactions affect your sense of worth. You are present because you want to be, not because you need something to stabilize inside you.

This changes the texture of connection.

Conversations feel less charged. Silence feels less threatening. You are able to stay engaged without bracing. That ease makes relationships feel lighter, even when they involve depth or vulnerability.

This is why self-romance often improves intimacy without effort. You are not asking connection to do extra work. You are meeting it from a grounded place.

How Self-Romance Reduces Internal Noise

Internal noise often comes from unresolved self-negotiation.

Should I say something. Should I let it go. Should I push myself. Should I rest. When you are disconnected from yourself, these questions loop endlessly because there is no internal reference point strong enough to answer them.

Self-romance provides that reference point.

You begin to recognize patterns instead of debating individual moments. You know when something is a temporary mood and when it is a signal. You trust your own sense of timing. That trust quiets the internal debate.

Decisions feel simpler because you are not arguing against yourself.

Why Self-Romance Makes You Less Reactive Over Time

Reactivity often comes from being caught off guard by your own feelings.

When emotions surface unexpectedly, they can feel disruptive. You react quickly to contain them. You explain them away. You push them aside. Self-romance reduces reactivity by making emotional awareness continuous rather than sporadic.

You are not surprised by your own responses because you have been paying attention all along.

This shows up as more measured reactions. You pause before responding. You choose words more carefully. You are less likely to escalate or withdraw suddenly. That steadiness protects both you and the people around you.

What Self-Romance Ultimately Protects

Self-romance protects your relationship with yourself first.

It prevents the slow erosion that happens when you repeatedly override your own needs. It stops resentment from building quietly. It interrupts patterns of self-neglect before they harden into identity.

By protecting that internal relationship, everything else becomes easier to navigate. You are not constantly compensating for what you have ignored. You are responding from a place of relative balance.

This is why self-romance is not selfish. It does not pull you inward in a way that disconnects you from others. It roots you so you can engage without losing yourself.

Why This Is Enough

There is no final transformation promised here.

What self-romance offers is something quieter and more durable. A way of being with yourself that does not require constant correction. A steadiness that allows you to move through life without abandoning yourself in the process.

You do not become someone else.
You become more present as who you already are.

And that presence is what makes everything else feel more honest, more sustainable, and more yours.

Why Self-Romance Makes Life Feel Less Performative

One of the final shifts people notice, often without naming it, is how little energy goes into managing appearances.

Before self-romance, there is usually an internal audience. Even when you are alone, part of you is watching, evaluating, editing. Am I handling this well. Do I look composed. Would this make sense to someone else. That internal surveillance is exhausting, even when it feels normal.

Self-romance quiets that audience.

You stop narrating your life as if it needs to be justified. You experience moments without immediately framing them. You let reactions exist without shaping them for approval. Life feels less like something you are presenting and more like something you are inhabiting.

This does not make you careless. It makes you present.

How Self-Romance Reclaims Emotional Privacy

Emotional privacy is often misunderstood.

It is not secrecy. It is not withdrawal. It is the ability to experience your inner life without immediately offering it up for interpretation or validation. Many people lose this privacy early, especially if they learned that emotions were only acceptable when shared in a certain way.

Self-romance restores that boundary.

You decide what needs to be shared and what simply needs to be acknowledged internally. You stop explaining feelings that are still forming. You allow yourself to process without commentary.

In real life, this might look like taking time to understand your own reaction before discussing it. Letting yourself feel conflicted without rushing to clarify. Sitting with joy without posting it, narrating it, or turning it into proof.

That privacy creates depth. It allows emotions to develop fully instead of being flattened by premature interpretation.

Why Self-Romance Changes the Way You Handle Regret

Regret often carries unnecessary weight when you are disconnected from yourself.

You replay decisions. You judge past versions of yourself harshly. You assume you should have known better, even when you were doing the best you could with the information you had at the time.

Self-romance softens that judgment.

You look back with more context and less condemnation. You recognize patterns without turning them into accusations. You understand why you made certain choices instead of shaming yourself for them.

This does not erase regret. It makes it useful. Regret becomes information rather than punishment.

That shift frees up energy that would otherwise stay locked in self-criticism.

How Self-Romance Redefines Self-Respect

Self-respect is often described as confidence or assertiveness, but it shows up more quietly than that.

It shows up when you do not stay in situations that require you to shrink. It shows up when you do not explain yourself excessively. It shows up when you honor your own limits even when no one else is watching.

Self-romance strengthens self-respect by reinforcing a simple internal rule: my experience matters enough to respond to.

Over time, that rule becomes automatic. You do not have to remind yourself. You simply act in ways that reflect it.

This is why boundaries feel less like confrontations and more like natural adjustments. You are not defending yourself. You are responding to yourself.

Why Self-Romance Makes Change Feel Safer

Change often feels threatening when you are disconnected from yourself.

You worry about making the wrong choice. You fear regret. You hesitate because you do not trust yourself to recover if things go poorly. That fear keeps you stuck even when something is clearly not working.

Self-romance builds confidence not through certainty, but through trust in your ability to respond.

You know that if something changes, you will stay with yourself through the transition. You will notice what you feel. You will adjust as needed. That trust makes movement possible.

You are not relying on perfect decisions. You are relying on consistent self-attention.

What This All Adds Up To

When self-romance is present, life feels less brittle.

You are not walking on emotional eggshells with yourself. You are not constantly bracing for internal backlash. You are allowed to be human without punishment.

This does not mean everything feels easy. It means difficulty does not disconnect you from yourself.

You stay present through stress. You remain kind toward yourself through missteps. You do not abandon yourself when things feel uncertain.

That continuity is the real outcome of self-romance.

Why Self-Romance Is Enough on Its Own

There is a temptation to turn self-romance into a means to an end.

To use it to become more attractive. More productive. More successful. While those things may change indirectly, they are not the point. When self-romance becomes transactional, it loses its grounding effect.

Self-romance works because it is not trying to get you anywhere. It is keeping you with yourself where you already are.

That presence is what allows growth to happen without force.

The Quiet Truth at the Center of All of This

At the center of this work is a simple truth that often takes time to accept.

You do not need to disappear to be lovable.
You do not need to over-function to be worthy.
You do not need to earn the right to care for yourself.

Self-romance does not take anything away from anyone else.

It gives you back to yourself.

When Self-Romance Stops Feeling Like Work

Eventually, something shifts without announcement.

You realize you are no longer thinking about whether you are choosing yourself. You are just responding. You notice discomfort and adjust. You feel desire and allow it to exist without urgency. You experience rest without negotiating whether it is deserved.

The work fades because the relationship has stabilized.

This is often when people understand that self-romance was never meant to feel aspirational. It was meant to feel normal. Like brushing your teeth. Like answering hunger. Like stopping when something hurts.

When that normalcy sets in, the emotional volatility that once felt unavoidable starts to soften. Not because life is easier, but because you are not fighting yourself while living it.

Why You No Longer Confuse Urgency With Importance

Before self-romance, urgency often masquerades as importance.

Strong feelings feel like they need immediate action. Intensity feels meaningful. Discomfort feels like a problem that must be solved quickly. That urgency drives choices that are reactive rather than aligned.

Self-romance changes that relationship.

You learn how to feel something deeply without acting on it immediately. You let urgency pass before deciding what actually matters. You distinguish between emotional activation and genuine desire.

In real life, this might look like pausing before responding to a message that triggers you. Sitting with excitement without committing too quickly. Letting disappointment settle before rewriting the entire story.

This discernment makes your choices cleaner. You are not pulled around by every emotional spike.

How Self-Romance Reorients Your Sense of Worth

When worth is externally anchored, it fluctuates constantly.

It rises with approval and falls with silence. It expands when you are useful and contracts when you rest. That instability creates anxiety even during good moments, because you are aware of how quickly it can change.

Self-romance stabilizes worth by making it internal.

You no longer measure yourself exclusively through response, productivity, or desirability. You experience worth as something that exists regardless of what is happening around you.

This does not eliminate insecurity entirely, but it reduces its power. Insecurity becomes a feeling rather than a verdict. You can acknowledge it without letting it define you.

Why Life Feels Less Fragile

When you are disconnected from yourself, life feels precarious.

One misstep feels catastrophic. One disappointment feels defining. One loss feels like it might unravel everything. That fragility comes from relying on external conditions to maintain internal stability.

Self-romance strengthens the internal foundation.

You trust that you will stay with yourself even when things go wrong. You know you will notice what you feel and respond accordingly. That trust makes difficulty feel survivable rather than overwhelming.

You are not invincible. You are resilient in a quieter way.

How This Changes the Way You Love

Love becomes less about seeking and more about sharing.

You are not looking for someone to complete you or calm you. You are offering connection from a place that already has grounding. That changes the tone of intimacy.

You listen more openly. You express needs without fear. You tolerate distance without panic. You engage without losing yourself.

Love stops being a place where you disappear and becomes a place where you arrive as yourself.

Why the Question of Selfishness Eventually Loses Meaning

At some point, the question simply stops coming up.

Not because you convinced yourself, but because your lived experience answers it for you. You see how much steadier you are. How much more present you are. How much less emotional labor your relationships require.

You are not withdrawing from others. You are no longer overextending.

You are not prioritizing yourself at the expense of connection. You are prioritizing internal stability so connection can exist without strain.

That is when the word selfish stops applying.

What Remains When Everything Settles

What remains is not a concept or a framework.

It is a way of being with yourself that feels reliable. You trust your reactions. You respond to your needs. You stay present through change.

You are not perfect. You are not constantly serene. You are human and responsive.

Self-romance does not make you exceptional.

It makes you grounded.

And from that grounding, your life feels less like something you are managing and more like something you are living.

 

FAQ

Why does choosing myself emotionally feel selfish?
Because many people learned that care had to be earned externally, so initiating it internally feels unfamiliar and morally loaded at first.

Is self-romance the same as self-care?
No. Self-romance is relational. It focuses on how you stay emotionally present with yourself over time, not on activities or routines alone.

Can self-romance improve relationships?
Yes. It reduces unconscious emotional demand on others by creating internal steadiness first.

Why does guilt show up when I slow down or rest?
Guilt often signals conditioning around productivity and worth, not an actual problem with rest.

Does self-romance make you emotionally independent?
It creates emotional stability without isolating you. Connection becomes chosen rather than required.

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